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This is precisely why I have refused – yes, Refused – to return to paycheck hell. When my husband starts making the “I’ll never retire if you don’t go back to work’ noises, I eagerly jump up and print out my List of Demands. I would LOVE to go back to work, but can’t be expected to do 2 full-time jobs, right So, every single chore that involves house, child care, social lives, therapy appointments; swimming, TaeKwonDo and sports stuff; meal prep and shopping – everything gets put in 3 columns; task, time involved and a dollar amount associated with ‘hiring it out’. I hand him the sheet, and say “How are we going to get All This Done Hire it out ” and tap the $$$$ column. “Wow, that column totals over $5k a month! We’ll have TO SHARE the chores!” Since dh works at least 60 hours a week, there is no way he can help do much of anything. (We also have a special needs child, who has 3 therapy appointments a week. All between 9 and 3. How can someone work and get their child to therapies )

The subject gets dropped for awhile. It will come up again. No problem. I keep the document stored in Word and revise it occasionally.

I get furious when I hear about the inequitable chore division in most households. I don’t think dh got it until I put a dollar amount beside each task. Then it suddenly became ‘valuable’. Yes, the stuff I do at home is extremely valuable.

Honey, you need alot more help than you are getting. You might want to try assigning a dollar amount to the tasks involved in your 2nd full-time job – if you don’t do them, and he won’t do them, you’d have to pay to get laundry done, food on the table, house cleaned, baby picked up from daycare, etc.

Just an idea….
Sorry to dump this on you on Monday.

ooh! I appreciate all that you said, V! And the chicken to boot. Am toooo excited. Will email you soon!